Parfumo/Fragrantica

Hey, hey, hey - "inflexible and stubborn" is way too critical. The host steps in when the drama becomes too loud. Until then, the policy is "Libertarian" = self-govern yourselves which makes for a lot of spontaneity. Free speech. Members do remind each other when the discussions get out of hand. Freedom until you get reigned in. Which is never a problem for those who conduct themselves politely.

A while back, over at Fragrantica, there was a drama, I forget which was the reason. At that point, the host Zoka said that the site Fragrantica is "Libertarian".

Come on ... let me be as critical as I want to be...-

wasn't it freedom of speech you were advocating in your post?

That is the last thing I want to contribute as far as this thread is concerned. I'm afraid it drifts off into an all too familiar "Fragrantica"-mode. I've had enough of this in the past already.

Agreed Dlane and Gold.

Since I don't go there a lot I don't know what "Fragrantica mode" is but if there should be some old stories between some people who know each other from that site please get it settled via PMs.

It is okay to discuss Parfumo vs. Fragrantica but please do not bring it to a personal level between Parfumo users.

This is so unfair. I am a peaceful person who visits easily both sites.

Wasn't there to start with but I'm glad it's now out in the open.

Cryptic, you naughty girl, oh how I love you! x

Then simply just do this without further comment. No need to be misunderstood, Pipette. We know your point multiple times by now. So I don't see the need to bring it up anymore. I rather feel stuck in an endless time-loop because of all these threads discussing the same issue.

Right back at you, lovey!

Dlane, I think a troll is an individual so desperate for attention that she or he is willing to act like a pest in order to get it.

Ok, I think I get it, so you feed the troll by responding? They don't care if it is a negative reply. They just want a reply.

Please correct me if I am wrong.

Bingo! Unfortunately, it is easier said than done.

People, if we're just going to start squabbling, or more particularly start talking about someone who's not even a parfumo member, then we've jumped the shark IMHO.

All I can say is it's hard not to rise to the bait when you've been driven near batshit crazy for years. However, I acknowledge your point about the gossip, and will edit accordingly.

I learned this lesson the hard way at the salon de parfum recently. After suffering for months under the tyranny of a troll whom I was trying to pacify and socialize, I finally let him go. Only now has my peace returned.

Just say "No" to trolls. No acknowledgement. No reply.

Exactly. Trollery cannot be committed in a vacuum. Indifference is a powerful tool, people. Use it.

Agreed

A wise decision!

With all respect, Sherapop, but your troll was a stupid one since all he did was insulting you.

The more dangerous and intelligent ones create users in perfume communities, spend a lot of time and energy to be good friends with as much people as possible, even donate money. At some point, maybe after years, when they think they have achieved a "position" they start picking at and insulting a few other users. When they finally get sacked, they leave behind a horrible mess of frustration and disappointment, and many users put the blame on the webmaster for banning such a nice person!

One of that kind was best friends with all the ladies at the German site, but he became sarcastic and disrespectful whenever a male user posted an elaborate review - and so I think I was one of his preferred victims.

I never reacted and at some point he lost interest and simply ceased to visit Parfumo.