I'm sad and in need of some support
11 years ago
This has absolutely nothing to do with perfume. Whatsoever. And yet I choose to post it here and believe that it is here that discussing this issue would be most productive and maybe somewhat less painful. Because we are sensitive to beauty and tuned into the fine, not easily categorized things, and that makes us more capable of abstraction and ultimately, empathy.
The question that's been tormenting me for a while now is how do we go about values and ideals with our children? How do we teach them to be honest, noble and overall good, if those ideals are going to be trampled at some point, inevitably and very painfully? How do we teach them to trust, if we know that someone, somewhere will inevitably hurt them with lie?
Surely, we cannot raize them to be cynical, jaded little pricks who don't give a damn about anything from the get go. And yet, it seems that the better someone is, the more he or she gets hurt. It's a matter of projection: honest people are usually trusting, empathic and caring ones need equal empathy and care, kind ones believe that there are more people like them than there are evil, loving ones assume they will be loved back, because they don't know how anyone can be incapable of something as natural to them as love.
And then a child like that grows up and goes into the world that's far from honest, caring and supportive. And it starts looking as if the parent who raized this child to be good actually made her weak and put her in harm's way by doing so.
I feel funny, you know. I feel like I know nothing about this world. Has the definition of good changed without me noticing? All the values I've been taught as a child, seem to not be applicable anymore.
Reality check. HA. HA.
The question that's been tormenting me for a while now is how do we go about values and ideals with our children? How do we teach them to be honest, noble and overall good, if those ideals are going to be trampled at some point, inevitably and very painfully? How do we teach them to trust, if we know that someone, somewhere will inevitably hurt them with lie?
Surely, we cannot raize them to be cynical, jaded little pricks who don't give a damn about anything from the get go. And yet, it seems that the better someone is, the more he or she gets hurt. It's a matter of projection: honest people are usually trusting, empathic and caring ones need equal empathy and care, kind ones believe that there are more people like them than there are evil, loving ones assume they will be loved back, because they don't know how anyone can be incapable of something as natural to them as love.
And then a child like that grows up and goes into the world that's far from honest, caring and supportive. And it starts looking as if the parent who raized this child to be good actually made her weak and put her in harm's way by doing so.
I feel funny, you know. I feel like I know nothing about this world. Has the definition of good changed without me noticing? All the values I've been taught as a child, seem to not be applicable anymore.
Reality check. HA. HA.