What are some perfumes that are both off-putting and attractive at the same time? As if encountering a succubus, you know they will devour your soul and leave you with nothing, yet you cannot seem to get enough of them. Scary and dangerous yet charming and alluring.
When you find out I want all of them 
but seriously speaking
Salome is incredible for the purely feminine
Mandodari is still femme imo but like vaguely soft-hard vibes
Unutamam is extremely masc but oh my god I would lose my shit if a woman wore it
The Lover's Tale is great and kinda queasy-frisky in a way sorta like 
Varanasi which is also incredible with a similar note to 
Tonnerre which is the only animalic too much for me. You might like that or 
Vi Et Armis tho
Yloud-Yloud and 
Oud Maximus (2020) are both incredible but maybe a bit less distinct
Try 
Hard Leather
Also everything from Marlou. What you have described is actually his specialty.
And I’ll second @Coasterdude recommendation of The Lover's Tale and add 
Sex and The Sea and 
Sex and The Sea Neroli
