08/12/2025

femer
1 Review

femer
1
the love of my life. i am so attached.
i loved this perfume all through middle school. i’m aware the fragrance is a bit… adult. but when my mother got a bottle of it in some subscription box back in 2020, she gave it to me and i fell in love.
i knew nothing about fragrance when i was 11— and i still don’t know much— but when i got this, the smell was everything i wanted to be. i didn’t associate it with anything sensual, i just thought it smelled so indescribable. to this day i still view this scent through the lens of a 5th grader.
now that i am more familiar with scents and their associations:
i would say it smells very woody, as expected. i would describe the feel of this perfume as a deep, androgynous, heavy smell that settles into a slightly floral and smooth wooden vanilla. i apologize for my grammar or poor way of describing, but i hope you get the picture.
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to me, this is every experience i had from 11-13. in detail. my bottle was extremely sentimental and i used it sparingly. it wasn’t a scent people knew me by but it coated everything in my room. the insides of my bags and my bedding were routinely sprayed with this fragrance. i ran out when i was 13 and begged my mom for the (slightly) larger bottle as a christmas gift when i was 14.
then i felt so guilty about the price that i’d use it even more sparingly than my first bottle and i ended up giving it to my mom because i couldn’t bare using it all up again. my mom didn’t even use it and when we moved, it got lost and forgotten. such a waste, right? a fresh bottle of this liquid gold just thrown away.
well, for the past week. this perfume has occupied my every thought. i dug through my mom’s closet looking for it for days and cried myself to sleep twice over it. i really believed that i’d thrown away that expensive, beautiful perfume. but then my mom suggested that we check the storage closet outside. i was sure that if it was in there, after a whole year… it was absolutely ruined. but somehow, in the arizona heat, this perfume lived. honestly, it thrived. it smells even better. is this maceration? i don’t know, but it’s good, whatever it is.
of course i did what i always used to do with it, sprayed it all over my prized possessions and then let the bottle sit next to my bed so i could smell it to calm myself.
god i love this fragrance. sorry for the rant. please don’t forget about your perfumes!
i knew nothing about fragrance when i was 11— and i still don’t know much— but when i got this, the smell was everything i wanted to be. i didn’t associate it with anything sensual, i just thought it smelled so indescribable. to this day i still view this scent through the lens of a 5th grader.
now that i am more familiar with scents and their associations:
i would say it smells very woody, as expected. i would describe the feel of this perfume as a deep, androgynous, heavy smell that settles into a slightly floral and smooth wooden vanilla. i apologize for my grammar or poor way of describing, but i hope you get the picture.
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to me, this is every experience i had from 11-13. in detail. my bottle was extremely sentimental and i used it sparingly. it wasn’t a scent people knew me by but it coated everything in my room. the insides of my bags and my bedding were routinely sprayed with this fragrance. i ran out when i was 13 and begged my mom for the (slightly) larger bottle as a christmas gift when i was 14.
then i felt so guilty about the price that i’d use it even more sparingly than my first bottle and i ended up giving it to my mom because i couldn’t bare using it all up again. my mom didn’t even use it and when we moved, it got lost and forgotten. such a waste, right? a fresh bottle of this liquid gold just thrown away.
well, for the past week. this perfume has occupied my every thought. i dug through my mom’s closet looking for it for days and cried myself to sleep twice over it. i really believed that i’d thrown away that expensive, beautiful perfume. but then my mom suggested that we check the storage closet outside. i was sure that if it was in there, after a whole year… it was absolutely ruined. but somehow, in the arizona heat, this perfume lived. honestly, it thrived. it smells even better. is this maceration? i don’t know, but it’s good, whatever it is.
of course i did what i always used to do with it, sprayed it all over my prized possessions and then let the bottle sit next to my bed so i could smell it to calm myself.
god i love this fragrance. sorry for the rant. please don’t forget about your perfumes!