No feedback on my perfume

Allright guys n gals, is this just me?

No matter how much I spray on, I get zero feedback on my perfumes. Doesn’t matter which one I wear. Doesn’t matter how much I spray on.

Last time I did like 7 sprays of Dior’s Sauvage Elixir (I read people doing just 3 sprays). It’s like my skin just sucks it up or something. Maybe the acidity of my skin cancels it out? I don’t know but I smell it myself anyway.

I have a very sensitive nose so when I do just a couple of sprays it’s enough for me myself to enjoy the smell almost the entire day. But yeah it’s cool to get a compliment here and there too…  What am I doing wrong?

Hi Ceesie,

Oh this can be so frustrating, I know !!!

Have you ever asked a few people that are close to you if they can smell your perfume?

Not everybody comments on someone else's perfume. I, for instance, have worked in environments where everybody was into fashion and perfumes and things like that and there, people would react on my perfume much more often than where I work now. Sometimes people just don't care that much. Sometimes people are just too shy to compliment someone else on his or her perfume or some just don't like perfumes in general.

My boyfriend unfortunately, does not care about perfumes, and I gave up on him telling me 'how wonderful I smell' or telling me which perfume he likes best 

Believe me, when you can smell your perfume yourself, others can too! Overspraying is not a wise thing to do, I think: it can also result in the opposite: like we can go 'nose-blind' by spraying too much, others can too....

When applying Sauvage Elixir, a single, carefully spray often garners more appreciation than liberal application.

...boggling at y'all actually receiving comments from other people on your perfume 😁 

One time at work a coworker made a remark “it smells like nail polish in here”. Of course I proved myself innocent by showing my finger nails, all natural and clean. Coincidentally, that day I stopped wearing Amber Cologne to the office.

I think that’s the closest I have ever been to receiving a comment, let alone a compliment.

I also think that some people simply don't have the confidence to talk to others about their fragrance, if you mean comments from strangers. I myself, for example, also don't have the confidence to do so. I sometimes would have liked to hand out a compliment when I came across a good fragrance, or I would have liked to have asked for the name of the fragrance, but unfortunately I couldn't bring myself to do it. And some people who notice your fragrance will certainly feel the same way.

And then, of course, there are also many people who are not interested in fragrances at all, which is why they don't comment on it either. I myself wear a different fragrance almost every day and have done so for several years, but I have only received two compliments from strangers, if I remember correctly.

You also have to bear in mind that tastes are very different. A thought from me: For example, if you meet 20 people outside, there may only be three who like the fragrance you are wearing and of these few people, there must be both the interest in fragrances to talk to someone about it and the confidence to talk to a stranger at all. So I don't think you're doing anything wrong. In my opinion, it's just that it's generally not often that strangers talk to someone about a fragrance, but depending on how many people you deal with or how many you meet every day and where you are, it can of course vary.

I've been in a similar situation. At any of my previous jobs, sooner or later a coworker comments about my fragrance regardless of what it is. Usually it's a compliment. I remember working in an office where the entire staff gave me weird bad vibes for multiple reasons. My boss was also very hot and cold towards me, like one second making me feel like a god and the next second making me feel like hot garbage. Anyway, one of the things I always thought was weird was that no one ever complimented my fragrance. I remember trying something new every day and hoping for some sort of reaction, but I got nothing. I took that as an early sign that the job wasn't for me, as stupid as that may sound. I almost would rather be told my perfume smells bad than nothing at all, so I feel you.

Thanks for your stories, very comforting.

It’s not that I’m fishing for compliments at all (although that can be nice 😊). It’s more that I find it very hard to dose correctly.

When my son uses one of my fragrances, sprays three times, I smell it very well from a couple of feet/meters. But when I spray 3 times and I ask him, or my wife, how does it smell? They have to practically smell from very very close to smell anything at all! Even with my example of Dior Sauvage Elixir.. boy I was almost intoxicated myself that’s how many times I sprayed. Next thing we’re standing in a small elevator. So I ask: well how does it smell. The answer: I smell nothing.

Maybe it was too much and I made them nose-deaf.

Hi again @Ceesie , When others are wearing perfume themselves, that may also affect their ability to smell someone else or how they perceive someone else's fragrance. In an elevator there may linger all sorts of scents from things or people that were there before you. It's also the reason why one shouldn't decide on a scent, when judging it in a perfumery with all other scents lingering there....

And again: The first one that wouldn't be able to smell a perfume no longer would really be the one wearing it (which is why people tend to overspray), so as long as you are able to smell what you are wearing, it should be fine. 

If you, yourselve, can't smell it any longer, you can also wear something else or nothing at all (perfume-wise I mean ofcourse  ) now and then because your brain may eventually block the perception of your scent when wearing it a lot.

Some people really just do not comment, I personally only will comment if the situation is one where I'm already conversing or we are close for a period of time.
I do sometimes make comments to strangers if I REALLY like their fragrance but its usually the ladies <3 , I tend to not approach men, let alone comment on their fragrance but I've smelt some fantastic frags on guys!!
I'd give an ask to a friend, see if they CAN smell you. 
I tend to wear fragrance purely for my own enjoyment, the sensory experience is a personal thing to me, but if others like how I'm stinkin' thats a huge bonus! If YOU like that frag on you keep wearing it! <3 

In my entire life I have had one lady stop and tell me I smelled good.  Once.   I am in my fifties.  These videos where the say they get complimented on this or that are BS.  Unless they work with a bunch of people that know they have a fragrance channel and are then asking "what do you think go this" all the time.  

Yeah incidentally I was just thinking about that too. Those influencers do fragrance as a living. Everyone around them knows that and might even feel obligated to compliment them!

I find it helps to have one person that you can use as a regular sounding board. That way they can give you an objective take on the relative strength & projection of various different scents - as well as letting you know which ones they like or don't - without worrying you'll be offended. As mentioned, strangers may be reluctant to comment on your fragrance even if they like it, but especially if they don't like it or it's too strong.

And like you say, it may be that folks near you just can't smell your frags. Some people's skin chemistry kills scents altogether; for others, certain fragrance compounds or specific notes are weaker on them than on most. We become more or less desensitized to frags when we're wearing them so it's hard to tell for yourself. 

Of course even when things are working fine, everyone's chemistry is a little different.

@Ceesie I'm not sure what your rituals and routines include, but well-moisturized skin holds scent longer and helps it project better, too!